Over the last couple of years I’ve had the immense fortune of speaking with over two hundred women about what they want most in life.
From Tokyo to London by way of Montreal and Paris, the most common “problem” I hear is: “I don’t know what I want to do with the rest of my life professionally and I’m scared of making the wrong decision.”
The thoughts ricocheting inside their brains sound like this:
“What am I legitimately good at?”
“What do I really want to do with my life?”
“How can I be certain that I’ll make the right decision?”
“What’s the perfect next step for me?”
You know what l've learned from speaking with and coaching women who share such similar thoughts and feelings about their future?
The best way to find the answer to their “problem” isn’t to dig in it, pick it apart and dissect it. Nor to hold it up on a pedestal and cower at the heels of its powerful presence.
In fact, the best way to solve the “problem” is:
1) To politely ignore it.
2) To turn the lens on the thoughts about the “problem” instead.
Basically, you solve your “problem” by questioning the questions you use to find the answers. By thinking about your thinking, you develop new ways to think.
We all assume that our thoughts are rigid and 100% real — like permanent black marker streaks on a pale wood table top. They are alarmingly true and NOT going anywhere.
But that’s not the case: thoughts are as nimble and flexible as you allow them to be. And the key to changing them is to start thinking about them.