I reluctantly turned down a perfect margarita on the rocks at the lively Mexican restaurant we were dining at. I had to drive the whole kit and caboodle back to my mom's house in upstate NY and the roads are tricky there at night.
It was a good thing I didn't indulge.
Fifteen minutes into our drive we had to shut off the radio, get the kids to stop fighting and seriously focus on the road because we were suddenly caught in a thunderstorm so intense it felt like an end-of-the-world action film.
I’ve never seen that much water fall that hard and that quickly. And for miles and miles and miles. I kept my calm for the kids but I was freaking the hell out.
It reminded me how bad ass water can be. It’s super discreet until it’s totally not. And it never seems to try that hard.
It doesn't second guess itself and wonder:
"How am I going to get around this thing?”
“Is this too much?”
“Am I allowed to be here?“
"Should I be doing it this way?"
Nope. It just flows. Over, through, around or in-between with a force that’s relentless, rhythmic, mesmerizing.
I’m fascinated by the concept of “flow.” Being in it. Watching it. Seeing what comes out of it.
My favorite part of my visualization workshop is when the group arranges their cut-out imagery on their vision boards with my R&B play list going on in the background.
Everyone's so focused and absorbed by what they’re doing there’s this humming flow to their movements. With little time to question their moves, they just have to go with what feels right.
Like bad ass flowing water.
When we behave like water we learn a lot about what we naturally migrate towards.
What we do when we are at our intuitive best. When everything feels totally in sync and easy and fluid.
For me that happens on a few specific occasions.
- When I cook.
- When I converse.
- When I walk.
- When I coach.
- When I write.
We so often over-complicate things. Try to force ourselves to be or become someone that we’re not. But what if there was less friction and more flow to our goals and our desires?
Try that idea on for size if you want with these questions:
- In what three situations do you intuitively know what to do?
- What's going on in those moments?
- How does it feel to be there?
- How often do you allow yourself to go there?
- What would happen if you strengthened that flow in you?
- Where would that get you?
PS. Speaking of "flow," there’s a three-hour Life Flow exercise that I love that clarifies desires based on natural tendencies, strengths and passions. At the end of the experience you’ll know exactly what steps you need to take right now to bring your goals to life.
I don’t usually offer Life Flow as a stand-alone coaching exercise, but it’s a great tool to get through the overwhelm of Fall in order to find your footing to move ahead with confidence during this tricky time of the year.