I pulled out a black-and-white marble notebook and drew a big line down the center of a page.
It was Spring of 1992 and I was a Senior in High School. My mom, step-dad and my best friend Helen were with me celebrating at Fiorentino’s, the best Italian restaurant (RIP) in all of Brooklyn.
We had just finished off a couple of orders of “spiedini alla romana,” the deep-fried mozzarella with anchovy sauce that the restaurant was famous for and that I still dream about to this day.
And now it was time to get down to some serious business before our main dishes arrived. Deciding which college I would go to the following year.
So we did what most people do when faced with an enormous, once-in-a-lifetime decision: a pros and cons list!
What a concise and curious way of making a huge life decision, don't you think?
We challenge ourselves to get really, really cerebral and serious about a decision.
We write down a bunch of items in each column in a factual, dissociated way.
We diligently count up the number on each side.
We make a decision based on the column that has the highest score.
We stick to that decision OR scrap it all and decide what we really want to do.
And we try to complete the task all before the check arrives!
Even though I’m pretty certain I made the right move when it came to college, as a coach I’ve learned that pros and cons lists are terribly flawed because they often neglect the physical and emotional components of decision making.
A better way to “experience” a decision is to travel into the future and try it on for size, looking for clues to what its impact may be from an emotional, physical and intellectual perspective.
When it comes to making full-body decisions I’ve seen my clients have huge revelations with the “sit and scan” technique we do together.
So, what’s the “sit and scan” technique, how does it blow pros and cons lists out of the water, and how can you learn the steps to make full-body YES decisions all on your own?
Read on to find out.